During these frustrating and unsettling times we can easily become sensitive, insecure and vulnerable. We can fall into misperceptions in our communications with others. This can lead to hurt feelings on both sides. It can be difficult to retrace the words that were spoken. What is even more unnerving is how to “fix it” so we can reclaim peace and harmony within the relationship. Simply stated, we get triggered and don’t know how to correct or stop it.
In order to heal these issues we need to first define what is a trigger. A trigger occurs whenever it appears that something or someone makes us feel not safe, rejected or invalidated. We then can become defensive and respond with fear or anger. We then can become critical of the person or situation. Often as we seek to understand the situation, it can actually expand into an even more irate circumstance with no resolve in sight.
Truth is if we get triggered, it’s our trigger. If we get our buttons pushed it’s because there is some subconscious insecurity that got stirred that brings up our opinions that we are some how not good enough, strong enough or intelligent enough. These are ALL false perceptions of self that are rooted in some past experience that is coming up again so we can hopefully have the opportunity to heal. When we get triggered it happens inside of us, not the other person. Therefore, it’s our interior that is saying, “hey that doesn’t feel good.” At that moment a true golden opportunity arises if we choose to hear it! At this point the best thing to do is breathe, remind ourselves we are NOT defined by our people’s opinions and NOT even our own! Then we need to ask the real question, “what or who does this remind me of?” Something or someone will bubble up to the surface that can help you decipher a past experience that feels similar in some way. This is our subconscious talking to us trying to help us heal, release and forgive a buried hurt so we can move forward in greater peace and self love having dissolved the original trigger point. It’s quite miraculous if we would allow this process to unfold. Once we have sufficiently reflected upon the past issue we will have gained great insight and personal freedom to remain calm, confident and grounded no matter what.
We are greater than we think we are. The infinite power of God’s love is always within us. It can never be taken or diminished, no matter what. We need to remember that as ABSOLUTE TRUTH because it is! When we begin to retrain our thoughts into peaceful self-love, triggers can melt away, lessons are learned and we create a much more harmonious life path. If we do get upset we can follow the inner process and resolutions can come forth quicker than before.
We all have experienced hurts along the way and we also probably didn’t know how to properly heal them. That’s why they got stuffed in our subconscious. It’s time to heal now. No need to carry the baggage from the past. It doesn’t serve anyone. Time to let it all go. Freedom and self worth are our natural divine inheritance. We just need to allow ourselves to do the inner work. Our hearts were made for love! They are NOT meant to be storage bins!
This is the time to release and let go of false perceptions. They only cloud God’s joy that is waiting to be released from within! Choose to forgive everyone for everything, especially ourselves. Choose joy and choose to share it with everyone. Yes, there will be upsets but the power of God’s love from within us is ALWAYS greater.
Let’s choose to set ourselves free from the bondage of all opinions including our own. Let’s reclaim our true identity as a child of the Most High God who is filled with radiant divine love and wisdom. Let’s be that LIGHT everywhere and let’s shine it out now!
P.S. “Then your light shall break forth like the morning, your healing shall spring forth speedily, and your righteousness shall go before; the glory of God shall be your guard.”(Isaiah 58:8)
Dr. Ginger Grancagnolo, Ed.D.,D.Min.
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